ROME — Italians have a saying, “Natale con i tuoi, Pasqua con chi vuoi,” which means that one must spend Christmas with family but can spend Easter with whomever one wants.

Liturgically, however, the Catholic Church does not agree. Catholics should celebrate the Holy Week and Easter vigil liturgies — the Easter triduum — in their parishes.

Most Catholics would think, “Where else would I go?” but that is not the case in the center of Rome, where it is only a slight exaggeration to say there can be a church on every corner and all of them are Catholic.

The Diocese of Rome has 335 officially established parishes — churches with responsibility for a geographical part of the city and the place where sacramental records of baptisms, confirmations and marriages are kept.

But Carmelite Father Giuseppe Midili, director of the diocesan liturgy office, said there are “well over 1,000” churches, chapels and oratories where one or more Masses are celebrated each Sunday and holy day and where baptisms and weddings are celebrated regularly. The sacramental certificates are forwarded to the local parish to be recorded and kept.

Within each geographical parish, the Mass schedules at the different churches are slightly staggered, so “if someone does not go to Mass on Sunday, it is only because they do not want to,” he said.

While the multiple Mass schedules are convenient, they also can splinter a parish community and contribute to the formation of small, homogeneous groups, he said. Ideally, a parish is a big mix of young and old, richer and poorer, members of the charismatic prayer group and those who sing in the Gregorian chant choir.

The episcopal council of the Rome diocese, in a document distributed March 1, said the unity of the diocese — seen especially through the unity of the bishop and pastors of parishes in the celebration of the Eucharist — is especially important to emphasize during the triduum: the Holy Thursday Mass of the Lord’s Supper, the Good Friday liturgy of the Lord’s Passion and the Easter vigil Saturday night.

“To express visibly the unity of the holy people of God and express the deepest meaning of belonging to an ecclesial community,” the council said, those who frequent non-parish churches, chapels and oratories or who belong to special groups, associations or new movements “are exhorted to take part in the celebrations of the Easter triduum in parish churches.”

An exception exists for “national churches,” like the U.S. Catholic community at St. Patrick Church in Rome, and for members of the Neocatechumenal Way, whose Vatican-approved statutes allow for small-group celebrations of the Easter vigil, Midili said.

Cardinal Angelo De Donatis, the papal vicar for the Diocese of Rome, published the council’s document with a note saying the joint triduum celebrations would make the parishes “the pulsing heart” of diocesan liturgical life, while the other churches and oratories could “rediscover their proper charism as privileged places for personal prayer and the celebration of reconciliation.”

“The object is not to restrict celebrations, but to create unity,” Midili told Catholic News Service.

A secondary effect, he said, should be a more beautiful celebration of the liturgies with more priests, readers, servers, cantors and choir members available to contribute.

“Read Exodus 12,” he said. Its instructions for the celebration of Passover say, “every family must procure for itself a lamb, one apiece for each household. If a household is too small for a lamb, it along with its nearest neighbor will procure one, and apportion the lamb’s cost in proportion to the number of persons.”

“What the diocese wants to promote is the idea that we are part of a larger community, something that is disappearing,” he said.

The parish is a family, the Carmelite said. “While I live in my house, my brother lives in his and my mother in hers, we get together for celebrations.”

“All of us have relatives we’d rather not spend time with,” he admitted, “but that does not mean we are not a family and that we should not join together as a family on important occasions.”