WASHINGTON, D.C. — Amid controversy caused by a Vatican official’s assertions that priests “have no credibility” in marriage preparation, representatives from dioceses across the United States maintain that both priests and laity have integral roles in the process.

“It’s not an either-or situation. There needs to be balance,” Archbishop John C. Wester of Santa Fe, New Mexico, told Catholic News Service. Wester also has served in the dioceses of San Francisco and Salt Lake City.

“Both priests and laypeople have something unique to offer,” said Wester. “I think any marriage preparation program should include both clergy and lay involvement and leadership. To have one or the other would be deficient. We need to have both.”

In an interview with the Irish bishops’ magazine Intercom, Cardinal Kevin Farrell, head of the Vatican’s Dicastery for Laity, Family and Life, said “priests are not the best people to train others for marriage.”

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“They have no credibility; they have never lived the experience; they may know moral theology, dogmatic theology in theory, but to go from there to putting it into practice every day … they don’t have the experience,” said Farrell, former bishop of Dallas.

While expressing personal respect for Farrell, Wester said, based on his own experience in multiregional dioceses, he believes priests are extremely competent in marriage preparation, given their pastoral interactions with couples and families within their parish communities. Priests have opportunities to develop greater skills in the seminary or in collaborative programs after ordination, he said.

“We always had rich, wonderful lay participation in marriage preparation,” he said, referring to his experiences with marriage prep programs across dioceses in three different states. “They complemented the priests’ preparations. I saw them working hand-in-hand very closely and very effectively. There should be robust lay involvement in marriage preparation, and the same for clergy involved, too.”

A bigger problem facing the Church, Wester says, is lack of parenting. Although much time is spent on marriage preparation, he describes lack of essential parenting skills as a major issue hurting families everywhere.

“We’re seeing the breakdown of the family. One of the reasons is that parenting skills are not there,” he said.

“We need to spend more time on parenting. That’s something that people don’t necessarily know how to do,” he added. “They just repeat their experience, which may or may not be the best.”

Wester said he believes society’s focus on responsible parenting has deteriorated in recent years, especially given lack of work-life balance for parents and changing role dynamics in households. As a result, he said, the Church is encountering more people with a definite lack of parenting skills.

“I think that’s an area the Church can do more in — helping couples reflect on and better prepare to be good parents, across the world, and especially in the United States,” the archbishop said.

The Diocese of Orange, California, also accomplishes marriage prep through cooperative efforts of clergy and laypeople. Like Wester, Church leaders in Orange emphasize the importance of teamwork between priests and laity in this area.

“Marriage preparation needs to be conducted by the whole community of faith through an intentional and collaborative partnership of family, clergy, catechists, other instructors and other married couples,” said Linda Ji, diocesan director of pastoral care for families in all stages.

From the Diocese of Peoria, Illinois, Msgr. Philip D. Halfacre said he believes priests not only can be good listeners, but inspirational shepherds to their parishioners.

“In my own experience as a priest for the past 27 years, I see the sense in which the Church is indeed something of a ‘field hospital,’ as Pope Francis has said,” said Halfacre.

He said many people come to ordinary parish priests on a daily basis just to talk.

“The faithful have the intuitive sense that they can share with their priests the burdens they carry as well as the great joys of their life,” said Halfacre.

He said that, over time, priests begin to recognize patterns in the way people describe relationships and thus develop insights about how to advise them, which Halfacre said is an important element in forming a priest’s “pastoral wisdom.”

He said priests are “in a unique position to keep before the minds of their parishioners the hope that they really can live a good life, a holy life that is pleasing to God.”

“And having encouraged them and giving them the sense that we believe in them, they often find the strength to aim higher and to achieve more than what they previously thought was possible,” he added.